From Midlife With Love

From Midlife With Love

Midlife Dating Hub 🩷

This question will transform your love life

The answer will lead you to a healthy relationship

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Katherine Baldwin
Jul 22, 2024
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I know you’re tired of dating apps, especially of profiles with selfies snapped in bathroom mirrors.

I know you’re over asking questions of your matches and not being asked any in return.

I know you think all the best ones are taken - that there’s nobody ‘decent’ left.

And I know that, based on all the above, you are asking, ‘Why should I bother? Why even try?’

But before you throw in the towel, let’s examine the points above.

On closer inspection, you’ll see that they all refer to what’s out there.

Which is why dating can feel so demoralising, because we can’t change what’s out there.

But this is where the good news comes in, because we can change what’s in here (she taps her fingers gently against her chest).

And often, when we change what’s in here, we get remarkably different results out there.

Now, I’m not saying that online dating doesn’t have its challenges. I know from speaking to clients and friends that there are plenty of pain points and potential pitfalls.

You have to contend with poorly written profiles, the aforementioned terrible toilet selfies, appalling grammar and rude behaviour, like people disappearing in a puff of smoke, without a word of warning, not even an emoji.

But what I am saying is that there is hope, there is so much hope, because you have everything you need inside you to change your dating experiences and revolutionise your romantic life.

The Question

All you have to do is step inside and ask this one question, as many times as it takes:

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